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Set the intention

Set intentions, not expectations

Intentions to set

Release the expectation of how it will go.

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Set your intention meaning

Tonight’s Mission:

The Andersen 5 is going to the Christmas Eve service!

It’s been a few years since we’ve all gone to the church in the town we live in for Christmas Eve. Either we were out of town or this little illness that’s been going around the world has kept us away with an immune-compromised son.

So tonight was the night!

We didn’t really know how our son would respond.

We came up with ALL the contingency plans….except 1….and I internally giggled the entire time.

About 5 minutes before the service starts my son slides down in the pew, headphones on…and goes to sleep!

Yep, we hadn’t considered that option….a nap.

Was it an overstimulating new environment?

Was it all the people? The music? The lights?

Or simply, when you get tired you sleep!

Honestly, I’m a fan of that.

How did I respond?

I held his head in position, I snuggled him when he sat up and went back to sleep, I smiled when people looked at us and I giggled.

The Mission was for the 5 of us to attend the Christmas Eve service.

When we, as a family, don’t place any judgments on ourselves this is considered Mission Accomplished!

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Set your intention meaning

What does it mean to set your intention?

When preparing actions for your intention the littlest things can make the biggest difference. Keep in mind what is going to work for each person and what makes it easiest for each person. It is ok to try out new things and see what works. Always think ahead to try to solve problems before they happen. One of the coolest things to watch was to watch our son observe or take a nap in the experience above. 

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Do we know how it is going to go?

No, we don’t. But be willing to try. You might be surprised to see how it turns out like I was for our Christmas Eve service. It would be so much easier to stay home and not try. But don’t let that keep you stuck, and get you out and live life. Set the intention and let go of all expectations of “how” it is going to go. Don’t pile on the expectation. Just go and experience it to its fullest.  Go out and try it and experience things and allow it to be whatever it is, even if it means leaving after 10 minutes. It is easy to get sad, depressed, frustrated, or angry at the situation. But if we peel all that back, it comes down to having expectations. So, let’s not have expectations of “how” it is going to go that then sets us up for negative feelings around trying to do something!

Set this intention: “We are going to try it” That is it.

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Setting intention activity

Break down the steps to any activity you decide to choose.

Can you see that the first win is in deciding you are going to try something?

What’s the next win?  That you got everyone into the car? I remember not so long ago, getting all three of my children into the car and into their carseats seemed like a massive win at the moment.

And what is the next win?

And the next?

Take things step by step and see them as wins along the way.

One of the reasons I like setting intentions is the emphasis on the journey rather than the destination. Instead of fixating on a particular outcome, we focus on the process of growth and self-discovery, embracing the present moment with curiosity and openness. This mindset shift fosters a greater sense of presence and curiosity, allowing us to fully engage with our experiences and appreciate the beauty of the unfolding journey.

See the wins along the way!

What words to use to set intentions?

When setting intentions it’s important to keep it simple.

We’re going to try (insert what you’re trying here).

When you try something it keeps it open and honestly there can be so many wins along the way.

The win we made the deicison to try something new, the win of going, the win of…..Find the wins and stay focused on what is working. Put together the list of wins and each time it may look different and you will begin to build up wins for a focus rather than what isn’t happening or what isn’t working well.

Have gratitude and appreciation along the way! Express gratitude for what is working. Gratitude can amplify the power of your intentions and cultivate a mindset of abundance and positivity. For instance, you might say “I am grateful for the love and support of my friends and family” or “I am thankful for the opportunities that come my way. I am grateful for the little steps that we are making.”

What words to use to set intentions?

How do you set true intentions?

Setting true intentions involves connecting deeply with your values, desires, and authentic self to identify what truly matters to you. Here’s a step-by-step guide to setting true intentions:

1. Reflect on Your Values: Take time to reflect on your core values—those principles and beliefs that guide your actions and decisions. Consider what is most important to you in life in this moment for this experience.

2. Clarify Your Desires: Identify your true desires and aspirations, beyond external expectations or societal norms. Ask yourself what you truly want to experience, achieve, or embody in this experience.

3. Listen to Your Gut Instincts: Tune into your inner wisdom and intuition are telling you. Pay attention to your emotions, instincts, and gut feelings, as they can provide valuable insights.

4. Set Intentions from the Heart: Set intentions that come from the heart rather than the ego or external pressures. Choose intentions that resonate with you and your family.

5. Focus on the Present Moment: Focus on the right now and what is actually happening. Don’t worry about the “what ifs” or the “might have.”

6. Release Attachment to Outcomes: Trust in the process of right now and release attachment to specific outcomes. Allow your intentions to unfold in their own time and in their own way.

7. Stay Open:  Stay open and receptive to the possibilities that your activity is going to go exactly as it is supposed to go AND might it be even more incredible than you had planned for it to be!

Watch our live video on not setting expectations and what intentions to prepare for. As well as how the smallest things can help for the best outcome when talking about expectations.  

How do you set true intentions?


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Chantal - June 19, 2024 Reply

Such important things to remember. You can apply these points to so many things, from a first date, to your wedding day, to the day you birth a child, to your child’s 7th birthday party. My son has inattentive ADHD and is quite anti-competitive and I had to learn to let him warm up to situations in his own time, and to give him a bit of a talk beforehand about what to expect.

    Katie Matias - June 19, 2024 Reply

    Exactly, setting the intention and letting go of expectations helps all of our mindsets in every situation.

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