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Have you asked for what you want lately?

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Have you asked for what you want lately?

Have you asked for what you want lately? I’ve been having conversations with moms and frequently hear them talk of their wants…..”I would love it if my husband would help me with medicine sometimes throughout the week. I would like to go out to dinner with girlfriends. I would love it if my husband would put the clothes away.”

Allow me to clarify and say I’m not specifically complaining about my household, LOL…but giving some examples I’ve heard lately.

Last school year I REALLY wanted my husband and son out the door on their way to school at 8 am, not 8:04 or 8:10 am… 8:00 am…..as I was internally complaining about this, the thought suddenly came to mind: “Have you asked him to please be out of the house by 8 am because it makes it easier to get the girls and myself ready?”

Hum…have I asked for what I want?

How do you ask for what you want?

Great question, and the answer was no I haven’t. Instead, I had been complaining in my head about everything wrong with them still being in the house after 8 am. So, that night I spoke with my husband and explained to him why I would love for them to be gone by 8 am. He understood and now works really hard to get them out of the house in time.  And in the times when they are a little later it doesn’t bother me as much, because I know he was trying!

Ready to do something with girlfriends, but feel like they never ask you?  It’s time…go ahead and ask them! Needing for someone to assist you on a project…here’s your permission ask!  Longing for a date night with your husband, but never have anyone to watch the kids…you guessed it…now’s the time to start asking!

Sometimes it’s a hard pill to swallow, but we need to do it!

Is there something you need to ask someone?

Is there something you say “I wish” for a lot? This might be an indication it’s time to have a conversation.

My hope is that your words will fall on the willingness of the person you are speaking with. Just ask.



Communication is key, as we talked about above. Here is more on communication and teamwork with your spouse that we talked on. 


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"The choice was crystal clear in that hospital room. My husband and I looked at each other, and we both knew that we were going to redefine normal. We were going to love our little boy totally, and we were going to navigate through our child’s special needs to the very best of our ability. We were going to find joy in caring for our child, no matter the circumstances!" > Keep Reading...
Wendy Andersen Parent of Special Needs Speaker
Hi! I’m Wendy Andersen, a parent of a special needs child and my mission is to empower other special needs parents to live JOYFULLY while caring for your special needs child!

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